Single or Not …Does It Define You???

I am a lady in my late twenties and sincerely it’s really been a struggle to live my life independent of what people say and do especially when it comes to my single status. I must confess, this was not the plan. In fact by 24, I had a vision of myself married with another kid by 27. Apparently that hasn't happened.

It’s really sad that I actually do get depressed once in a while simply because I am single but the funny truth is that I don’t even stay long in my relationships. Why? Well what can I say; when I see trash I leave it in the bin.

"But didn't you know it was trash before you agreed to go out with him?"

Let’s just say the hype to date and marry someone made me get into relationships with no standards or expectations. I just dated because I felt I should and maybe, just maybe...this guy would be the one.

Well I am happy to inform you that, “that” didn't work either. In fact I am so single plus I have a wounded heart to show for it. I try not to act wounded but who am I kidding, I am.

If you've not been heartbroken, then learn from me. Take your time to know a man before you agree to date him or even marry him. But if you’re a wounded soul like myself then not to worry, there is this popular saying that goes "time heals all wounds". So if you can, stay away from dating for now. You can have friends but no special friends...lol! Take time, to purge yourself of all your past emotional pain and drama. It will take time, but at the end you will enter your next relationship a better and happier person.

 There is a lot we all learn from our experiences and even more from others.

Lesson for Today

1.        Don’t date because you have to, date because you want to.
2.        Love because you can, not because you must.
3.        Spend time with yourself as a single person….. “learn to love you”

Cheers!!!

Imoh Iniakpaniko

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