WHERE THE GOOD MEN AT?

When I was younger, my dad was my hero and I, his princess. Every day I would sweep my feet off the floor when jumping to greet him from work and he would carry me with so much strength and tenderness. His bosom was definitely comforting. He was the best DAD ever... he was the best MAN ever.

As I grew up and got into serious relationships I wondered why the new men I met couldn't be as perfect as my dad. Really, he just knew what do every time. Even the issue of money wasn't a problem for him. I didn't have to lie or make up a fake budget to get money from him. Worst case scenario I would just say" I need some money to hold" and he would give me. Life was perfect as a little girl...

So now, here are these younger men of today who think that a lady asking her man to take care of her is a "gold digger", really? It really baffles me. They are not as caring as my dad neither are they free giving either. They are always suspicious; you actually have to win their trust over time. It’s really amazing and hard to actually fall in love as the romance movies put it. It almost like true love truly doesn't exist.

I keep on wondering what went wrong. didn't these men have father's like mine and learn how to treat ladies like myself? Or are these men plain EVIL?  Many question quarry my mind always as of why today's man can't be like my yesterday's dad…. be just perfect. I guess that’s it... "Yesterday’s dad". Of course my dad was wonderful when I was a kid but as I grew up I gradually began to notice the imperfections in my dad. At some point I even began to commend my mum for sticking to my dad all these years. Don’t get me wrong, my dad is great but not perfect.

My parents were my ideal dream couple, (and still are) I mean I had never seen my parents quarrel as a child…I mean never. Our home was perfectly peaceful. We were raised in the God fearing manner. My family is the ideal family. But as an adult I have come to also observe that building a good and healthy relationship was actually deliberate from my parents. Now I know that things were not as easy as they seemed.

To the single ladies, do you ever wonder why married men have more manners than the single ones?  I mean why they know exactly what to do and how to do it. Even worse of all, why are men who are in relationships just perfect. Where are all the good men?

I have come to learn that they are NONE. Most men were once immature and rough round the edges, of course some had better home training than others but the simple truth is that their ladies showed them what they wanted and taught them how to get it done. It goes out to us singles ladies don't take crap oh! But wake up and smell the roses no man is perfect.

Cheers!!!

Imoh Iniakpaniko

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