The Truths about Cohabitation......

Won't we all love to do it...... but to what end ?

Speaking of truths, this is something that I have considered doing, and I must attempt its been challenging to try and do whats right when loneliness creeps into your room every night and the cold nights don't help one bit. Yep! I feel you big time and most especially I hear you loud and clear.... but still it ain't right.

Yea! I know it kinda feels good when his is always in the house, watching TV, playing games with his friends, eating your food etc. It does have a way of making you feel complete; doesn’t it? Yep! I know that feeling. 

I have to be real with you, I ain’t judging because at least I have spent weekends at my boyfriend’s house in the past and I enjoyed every bit of it.  Aside the companionship reason I know some folks will be like…” but it’s economical to live together”

Yeah! Yeah! Your right but who are we kidding  at the end we might pay dearly for living with a spouse who we are not married to  especially emotionally if it finally doesn’t work out.  Damn! That would be bad, personally that would hurt deep. I know it’s a very tempting norm in our society but we can make a decision and establish a positive choice in our lives. In case your still considering it, let me brief you on some of the truths about cohabitation.

1) It Affects Your Self-Worth Negatively:  Yeah! I said it…No matter how many times your partner says  he/she can never be bored of you and want to spend the rest of his/her life with you, such words could be better experienced in marriage than having a taste before marriage. What you have to understand is that, most beautiful and well crafted words are sponsored by emotions, and emotions do fade away at the face of reality. The reality is that you both are not married, and if by personal decision you chooses to become the acting-wife, your well-kept value would be altered and your self-worth, reduced to that of his kid-sister or even a common maid. It can get as serious as that!

2) Being Engaged Is Not Being Married: Now, this is the sensitive side of a relationship. He gave you a ring and all-of-a-sudden you think you are now his wife, Na-ah! Lessons of life has taught us that not all engaged status transit into married. Two love-birds could be engaged for a year, two, three or even seven without a plan for marriage. How would the young man be motivated to make it official when you're unofficially leaving with him? Let me spell it out, when he is shagging you too freely.

3) It’s Against Most  Cultures And Tradition: No matter how irrelevant we make culture look, no matter how our tradition has rapidly dwindled to give the 'modern-life' a face, it has no doubt upheld our morals and ethics. In some families, culture is still highly regarded. Culture and tradition could say: "stay in your home. The man will come there and ask your parents for permission to have you with him forever". You say: "the 'old-way' is no life; I'm watching my biological clock". Care is needful because when the regret comes, you probably going to be watching your menopause clock as a result of your wrong decision.

4) It Makes You The Regular Person: It's natural for two people to get tired of themselves. That's why we spice-up our relationships by doing some romantic things. Even if you gets tired of one-another, why not leave that till after you are married when a little 'fight and kiss' would spice it up again? No matter how much you'd love to see your man or lady, when it becomes regular, then forget the "I miss you" part of your relationship.