Hmmmmmmm........Match Making; Is It Necessary?

The issue of match making isn’t new to our ears, in fact it is an act most of us indulge ourselves into like every day as we schedule meetings, dates and dinners with people we have never seen or spoken to before. Some people consider it as fun while others see it as either one of the means or the last resort to finding Mr. Right (for the women) or Mrs. Wife (for the men). 

It’s like when  the whole meeting a person in the park, on the road, in a party, office, estate etc  procedure, ain’t bringing up fruits we just can’t help but resolve to blind dates organized by people we know who are concerned about our single desertness…..lol! Single “desertness” yeah!

It’s funny to actually describe a person’s love life to be in a desert like state but when experiencing it ourselves, it ain’t funny one bit. I mean even I have to confess loneliness ain’t fun no matter how busy, successful and achieved we may seem or actually are. We just need that special somebody to be there to tell us “good work”, “ am so proud of you”, ’I believe in you” etc all the time, in the night , in a message, even face to face. We just need that person that we can talk to when we are getting stressed, worked up at work, worrying about an issue or even about to make a big decision in our life. I mean companionship is one of the most priceless experience and asset on earth (that no one can deny).

Now my newest question about matchmaking especially when it’s aim is to find that special someone is…….  WHAT IS THE BEST WAY TO MACH MAKE?  A friend of mine who is more like an elder sister just told me about matching me up with this rich good looking ( according to her)  guy. Who wants to get married like yesterday and has been able to secure a life for both him and his wife to be, alongside children. I mean I heard this news and my ears  grew big in excitement and my eyes dilated in the anticipation  of meeting a man who has done his homework well in been a man ( am not against humble beginning) and taking up the responsibility to create a means to provide for his future family. But then my anxiety to meet this cool dude grew cold when I was told how and where I was to meet him. 

 This elderly sister kind of friend of mine told me to fix a morning date in her house where I would come and make breakfast for the guy so that on his arrival to the house he would have a taste of my cooking and have an idea of my wifey virtues in the kitchen . She says he is not a kid, he wants a wife not a girlfriend so all that dinner stuffs could be after we meet and we like ourselves because people go on dates couple of times have sex and that’s it. 

She was saying… “Let this man see you as a wife material; show him your wife qualities at the same time of also getting to know him better. Then if we like ourselves then we can fix a date and the rest will be up to us to make it work.”  Sounds like a good idea? …..well I didn’t like it. 

First, I felt I was trying too hard to get this guy who I have never met. Secondly, I felt it was cheap to try and act wifey with a man before meeting him just because I know he wants to get married, and then thirdly, I felt it was acting too fake because I was going to show him my virtuous skills before my personality. Don’t get me wrong I can cook and don’t mind cooking but on a first instant? In someone else’s house? I don’t dig that. I really didn’t mind meeting the guy on a date, maybe this lady’s house, in a restaurant, or even for a movie; we talk get to know each other. Then I can invite him over for breakfast, lunch or even dinner in my place or even in her place (if I decide), but that was going to be after a while of us getting to know each other. I mean can I be wrong?

Regards,

Imoh INIAKPANIKO 
@imohspeaks