Why Say The Words....."I DO"

seriously: why marry.....

The issue of marriage is a topic that seems to never leave the lips of every young girl. It crowds her mind with fairytale imaginations especially those of marriageable age (which could start from 12- upwards, depending on the culture). I mean from birth a girl is indirectly groomed for her wedding day and her marital life, it’s like nothing else seems to matter to the female race except marriage. For the ambitious ones money, success and accomplishment makes sense also but marriage tends to win the chart race. It’s really beautiful when u think about getting married, it’s like that’s when life beings and struggle ends … and sad enough that is so not true.

  

Some ladies look forward to marriage, its blissful beginnings and memorable experience but not the challenging tumbles and its confusing and delicate aspects. I mean where’s the light in this our dark tunnel of self deceit and denial. We should not lose sight of the simple fact that all that glitters is defiantly not gold. No matter what, we shouldn’t deny the fact that the school of marital life is for life and even till death will never be fully discovered. 

So then with all the work involved in getting married, why on earth should anybody want to? I mean its time consuming, stressful and emotionally draining. If it is for sex, most people are already doing that before marriage, if it’s for companionship you already have that in your relationships, or you want to have companionship for life? But what of the days when it’s like your single again maybe because you and your spouse are fighting. Does that mean you will leave the marriage or be depressed? Another reason could be because you want children, but then what if you don’t get to give birth to any not even one? Does that mean you married the wrong partner? The list or reasons why a person would want to get married can go on, and on, without an end but the simple fact is that none of them is anything compared to the genuine reason why you should marry. 

You marry when you have a peace in your heart about a person, a conviction…not a reason but a conviction. Your spirit is not anxious, you’re not scared and you have no doubt in your heart that you can withstand anything with this person. Not even age can separate your feeling for each other …marriage is that pure. 

Regards,

Imoh INIAKPANIKO 

@imohspeaks